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    Hell FH, you have not even started yet!

    I remember turning 30, and I was stunned that I had lived that long. I really felt that I had not taken enough risks and gotten far enough. 7 years later I was in business for myself.

    To add to that I had a real rough patch when I was 21, but by the time I was a university senior the path became clearer and a hell of a lot more real, removing self doubt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlameHeart View Post
    Can someone over 30 please tell me it's going to be okay? I just entered my mid 20's (24 on April 22nd) and I feel like time is running out, that I should have accomplished more. I'm still trying to complete undergrad with at least 3 more semesters to go.

    I'm in a midlife crisis
    I didn't get to college full time till about 27. But once in, I graduated with high honors at a good state engineering school and earned multiple awards, twenty some patents, and good salary in my profession for the next 25-30 years.

    Not that its all easy. I went through 2 divorces and am more or less alienated from my only sister because of family issues. I've been shot and underwent major surgery, I have cancer that I cannot get rid of. But life goes on and I try to make the best of it. I've kinda lived a full life and can't say I would trade my life for anyone else's.

    You aren't at your "midlife" point yet. But yes.... there are crises in every age. Try to push on, one day at a time till you break through into better days.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FlameHeart View Post
    Can someone over 30 please tell me it's going to be okay? I just entered my mid 20's (24 on April 22nd) and I feel like time is running out, that I should have accomplished more. I'm still trying to complete undergrad with at least 3 more semesters to go.

    I'm in a midlife crisis
    Nope. You're a long way from midlife.

    You're less than half my age (many of our ages) and I'm not even considered "old" in the circles, life and online, that I move in.

    Midlife crisis. I can only speak as a man. I have no sisters, my ex walked out long before we got to midlife...but here's how it went down for me, pretty typical.

    You hit That Age. You're tired more easily. Maybe the hairline is going back, or - in spite of all the work - the gut grows ever larger. You can work less, drink less, sleep less. And tolerate less - your capacity for BS shrinks.

    The pursuit (or potential pursuit) of women decreases in importance, or even interest. Yawn.

    Your mind stops working around where you'll go with your life, and starts thinking about where you'll go in retirement. Or how or whether you get there.

    The bank account is a bit bigger. AND, you stop worrying so much about **THE FUTURE**. You maybe buy a few toys you had always wanted. Maybe you want to repeat a trip you took when young (I did try, to return to Alaska) or pick up an old hobby (I did; I celebrated my 50th birthday by buying a motorcycle. I hadn't ridden in twenty years prior. A few days later, when my boss pricked off to me, I quit - right on the spot).

    The Midlife Crisis is when the reality of the future, meets the self-image of the past, in a cloud of denial. The beautiful young women you see, and many of them not really that young...still are young enough to call you, "mister." You would really like an ice-cream cone...but the doctor doesn't allow it, and anyway, you look ridiculous with it.

    I imagine...it comes younger for a woman; probably around menopause; but you're a long ways away, still.

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    I took a long break from school and finished my undergrad degree at 42.

    My classmates didn't even call me grandpa. You'll be fine.
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    To me 30 was the perfect age.....Old enough to know better but still young enough to do it.



    I might add a man knows he's getting old when all the pretty young cashiers or waitress's call you sweetie or say, hey, handsome.
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    Gosh if I could go back & tell my 20's me a thing or two...

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlameHeart View Post
    Can someone over 30 please tell me it's going to be okay? I just entered my mid 20's (24 on April 22nd) and I feel like time is running out, that I should have accomplished more. I'm still trying to complete undergrad with at least 3 more semesters to go.

    I'm in a midlife crisis
    Don't know enough about you with the limited description you posted, to offer any specific advice.

    First, you're 24. You're not having a mid life crisis, unless you're planning on dying by 50. Hoping that's not the case.

    Fact is, it depends on why you've just begun college at 23 years old. If it took you 5 years to figure out a direction in life, that's no big deal. You're young and you have you're whole life ahead of you and in the big picture 5 years is nothing. If you have a goal and required the education your major offers to meet that goal, and you're working hard to use every opportunity to accomplish what have planned for, you're fine and yes, it's going to be fine!

    BUT, if you started college at 23 without a plan/specific goal in mind, and are just using it to procrastinate, taking another 4 years to figure out a direction for yourself, (only you can answer that question), without a plan of how the specific major, education your getting in the 4 years will lead to a realistic chance of employment after college, then there's a good chance you may regret how you spent those 4 years. Basically, if you don't know the exact type of job you'll be qualified for, with an exact job in mind that will employ you, while your starting your journey to prosperity, you may have to rethink the way you're using your time.

    Mind you, I'm not saying you have to pick something and stick to it for the rest of your life, I'm only saying that when you choose to go to college, you have to have a plan that includes realistically getting employment after you graduate. The kind of employment that will get you a specific job, in a specific field, that you would not be able to get and prosper in, without such education. It doesn't have to be the final plan, or the best plan, but you do have to have some kind of plan in mind with a specific purpose. The plan can change to a better plan along the way, but at minimal, you should know that after you graduate, you will be able to get a job in a specific field.

    Point is, is that when you graduate at 27, you need to have a full time job, making good money. If you're not happy in your career choice, the money you're making will give you independence and the opportunity to make a career change while actually living your life while being productive. If you graduate without being able to get a good paying full time job, with the money that will give you the independence and self sufficiency a 27 year old needs, the chances of you finding a better career with the prosperity you desire, are slim.

    So, if you've got the plan, you're being productive with your life, you should be confident that time is NOT running out.

    If you don't have a specific plan right now, make one. Pick a career to start life after graduation with. One year into college is not too late to get on a good productive track for a good productive future filled with prosperity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FlameHeart View Post
    Can someone over 30 please tell me it's going to be okay? I just entered my mid 20's (24 on April 22nd) and I feel like time is running out, that I should have accomplished more. I'm still trying to complete undergrad with at least 3 more semesters to go.

    I'm in a midlife crisis

    My grandfather on my father's side of the family had a career in the postal service and retired as postmaster of a post office. From that point on he opened a real estate business and died a fairly wealthy man. There is plenty of time. Lots and lots of time. Work hard. Good luck.

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