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    Psychologist; Lean Into Your Bad Moods

    A psychologist’s satisfying take on why
    you should lean into your bad moods

    The other night, I rendered all my efforts to smile big and self-soothe my way out of a particularly sour mood fruitless. After a nearly 36-hour low-mood marathon, I was frustrated, exhausted—and still in a bad mood. Clearly, I was going about it wrong.


    The natural reaction to feeling off is to try your hardest to gas yourself up and out of it because these things happen, life isn't fair, and you're not the first person to have a bad mood. And sometimes, injecting your understanding of the situation at hand with some context can be a super-effective secret ingredient for restoring your mood to a state of happiness. Yet, even though this does sometimes work, it's essentially an act of emotional suppression that, for me, usually leads to a resurfacing of those pushed-down feelings that's only more severe on the second go-around.


    But what about just leaning in? Accepting that it's going to be a grayer day in my universe, and that I might feel grumpier, sadder, or more peeved than normal. Could this work? Might it even expedite the timeline for excavating myself out of the bad mood abyss, the same way sweating out of fever is also sometimes the way to go. As it turns out, I'm onto something (with regards to moods and not so much fevers).


    "I think it’s very important to recognize a sad or blue mood—even as it’s coming on," says clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, PhD. For me, the culprit is sometimes PMS, sometimes a symptom of my depression, and sometimes it's genuinely nothing. Yep, because as human beings, we're all entitled to off days, and it's okay to be in a bad mood for no good reason. Still, being able to acknowledge this is helpful, Dr. Manly says.

    "Then, whether or not the cause is determined, it’s lovely to just allow space for the sadness. This can be done by making more quiet time, having an extra cup of comforting tea, journaling, or simply honoring that you might need more down time that day," Dr. Manly says. "Thus, one’s gray day may be lighter and more likely to pass with ease by respecting that it has its own purpose, which is often to ask us to slow down and be gently reflective."

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    My take on this is that we all go through spells of bad moods and depression. There's always a reason for it, some big and sometime a bunch of little things that pile up. By 'leaning in' we need to accept the reason, pamper ourselves a bit and try to work our way out of it. It's not always easy and I'm wondering how others deal with it?


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    Good idea.
    Usually if I end up in a bad mood it's late enough in the day that I am feeling tired to begin with and something is said or read that just makes everything plummet. It's not easy to lean into something like that but it's better than fighting it.

    This morning I woke up to a big ole juicy kitty hairball on my keyboard. Not a good start to the day, but though it's been busy, it hasn't been bad. I just leaned right into that hairball.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jen View Post
    Good idea.
    Usually if I end up in a bad mood it's late enough in the day that I am feeling tired to begin with and something is said or read that just makes everything plummet. It's not easy to lean into something like that but it's better than fighting it.

    This morning I woke up to a big ole juicy kitty hairball on my keyboard. Not a good start to the day, but though it's been busy, it hasn't been bad. I just leaned right into that hairball.
    LOL, best and funniest post I've seen today. Leaning into a hairball - Love it! My bad moods happen when I have a disagreement with my husband right at bedtime - it affects my whole next day! Grrrr


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    Quote Originally Posted by Calypso Jones View Post
    leave me alone.
    Yeah, that's me too Calypso.


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    drink yourself happy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lone Gunman View Post
    drink yourself happy.
    Drown your sorrows, huh? But - the next day doesn't always feel good.


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    OMG,
    I don't know how to help you people.
    I very rarely have a bad mood.
    Maybe that is why the libs would dearly love to choke the chit out of me?
    You should see the dirty looks when we do yard work. Pig pens are in the new in. (I have a pesky weed that is five years old)

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    Quote Originally Posted by darroll View Post
    OMG,
    I don't know how to help you people.
    I very rarely have a bad mood.
    Maybe that is why the libs would dearly love to choke the chit out of me?
    You should see the dirty looks when we do yard work. Pig pens are in the new in. (I have a pesky weed that is five years old)
    You are lucky! My husband says he has never felt depressed and that amazes me. Long live your pet weed, hahaha!


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